“One of the worst things you can do when trying to get a woman to have a threesome with you is ASSUMING that it is a big deal.

Instead assume it is NO BIG DEAL, and a lot of fun. Pitch the idea to her the same way, for example, you would suggest that it would be fun for the two of you to get ice cream.”

These words apply to more than having threesomes with women. Whatever your intended outcome with a woman is - whether it is, for example, getting her number, getting her to go on a date with you, or getting her back to your house - ASSUME IT'S NO BIG DEAL, and a lot of fun.

Women are like professional psychics when it comes to picking up on when MEN ASSUME that something is a big deal. Even if we don't explicitly communicate that we think something is a big deal, women somehow always intuitively know.

I have a female friend of mine who told me that she always knows when a guy is scared to kiss her. “When a man thinks it is a big deal to kiss a girl he unconsciously displays all sorts of nervous and indecisive body movements conveying his fear,” she told me.

Assuming that something is a big deal can stifle your chances of achieving your intended outcome in two ways.

One is that by doing this you are lowering your perceived value in her eyes. She will stop seeing you as a PRIZE to be won over.

When you ASSUME, for example, that it is a really big deal to ask for a girl's number, it conveys to her that she is of higher of value than you. By doing this you are, unknowingly, ESTABLISHING that she is the PRIZE to be won over, not you.

Two is that when women intuit you assuming that something is a big deal, they begin to believe it is a big deal as well. How women feel about doing something with you is oftentimes a mirror image of how you feel about doing something with them.

If you are nervous, they will become nervous too. If you, for example, ASSUME getting a woman to go out with you is a big deal, she will pickup on your nervous energy and feel the same way.

When you, however, ASSUME that achieving your intended outcome with a woman is NO BIG DEAL, your perceived value in her eyes will increase. Furthermore, ASSUMING that your intended outcome is NO BIG DEAL will often times put a woman at ease making her assume that your intended outcome is no big deal. When you have perceived value in a woman's eyes and she construes your intended outcome as no big deal, it makes it very easy to get what you want.

There have been women I have slept with after only knowing them for a short amount of time - in some cases, as short as twenty five minutes! I was able to do this because I ASSUMED it was no big deal, and a lot of fun.

Also, if a woman puts up resistance when trying to kiss her, DON'T become distraught. Instead, keep your composure by ASSUMING it to be no big deal. Then, try again a few minutes later using my physical push-push technique from my book.

Of course having the mindset that achieving your intended outcome is no big deal is easier to achieve if you have the skill sets for both establishing yourself as the PRIZE and creating the emotion inside a woman of her wanting, reaching, chasing for more of you.

-Swingcat inside Real World Seduction

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